Excellent post today on Daily Kos from idahospud44, First Steps Into Eternity-How We Helped Mom Die. Spud’s mother had an unremarkable experience of aging, disability, and a final illness that ended with her death in a hospital. What is special about this is the way Spud repaired their relationship, made the best of their time together, and protected his mother from the failings of our medical system. The post is short and packed with good advice, but this passage jumped out at me because it is so true…
Do not trust the doctors as being all knowing. You need to be in control especially concerning medications. One time mom was hospitalized and when she returned home my sister and I went through her many medications and read the printouts. We found that she had been given medications that interacted in negative ways with one another. We got some discontinued after alerting the main physician who was himself unaware. This is especially true of those seeing multiple doctors or specialists.
The closest thing we have to a team leader in our medical system is the primary care provider, and it’s a good idea to contact them whenever there’s a change, because they don’t get no respect and they are not always in the loop.
My condolences to Spud. He writes beautifully and honestly about love and loss. Now I’m going to call Mom.