My Valuable Family

Actually, the stories of gay lovers who are thrilled to be able to legally marry after decades together doesn’t rob me of anything. It gives me a romantic buzz. And as an old Star Trek fan I send George Takei and Brad Altman my best regards. Here is from George’s blog…

The California Supreme Court has ruled that all Californians have a fundamental right to marry the person he or she loves. Brad and I have shared our lives together for over 21 years. We’ve worked in partnership; he manages the business side of my career and I do the performing. We’ve traveled the world together from Europe to Asia to Australia. We’ve shared the good times as well as struggled through the bad. He helped me care for my ailing mother who lived with us for the last years of her life. He is my love and I can’t imagine life without him. Now, we can have the dignity, as well as all the responsibilities, of marriage. We embrace it all heartily.

Check out the rest of it for a few words about second-class citizenship from a man who was confined to an internment camp for being Japanese-American during WWII.

As for destroying heterosexual marriage — it just makes me appreciate mine all the more when someone so eloquently praises ‘the dignity, as well as all the responsibilities, of marriage.’ Sweet.

It’s like one of those Jane Austen novels, where the couple has to outrun and outwit a barrage of social prohibitions before they can finally be together by the last page. And it’s also a vindication of the faith that love doesn’t fade as you get older. I wish I were going to the wedding.

Live long and prosper, guys.


4 thoughts on “My Valuable Family

  1. There is a constitutional amendment on the California in November which would outlaw same sex marriage.If passed,the court decision would be rendered moot.The California Supreme Court cannot review a constitutional amndment.
    I imagine the Federal courts could review an amendment to a state constitution,but they might be very hesitant to do so.of course we’re talking about the 9th Circuit,which has been overruled more times by the SCOTUS than any other appellate court.This could lead to a very interesting legal battle down the road.
    The same sex marriage question may in fact have to be settled in the US Supreme Court because of the full faith and credit clause of the US Constitution.I don’t know if a marriage where one or both parties are underage in another state would be considered married in that state if they moved there.Marriage is a continuous status unless terminated by death or dissolution,so this question will be causing more problems as time goes on-hence the need for a definitive answer.
    Unlike marriage,abortion is a discrete act occuring at one specific place and therefore should be determined by each state.I know I may get attacked here for this point of view,but it does make sense.This was the exact point that Judge Robert Bork made and he became a lightning rod for it.

  2. I heard Ron Paul on the radio saying that abortion laws should be left up to the states. But if a citizen, a woman, has a right to make personal decisions about her own body then I don’t see why a state should be able to pass laws to prevent her from obtaining a safe abortion if that is her choice. It seemed strange that libertarianism doesn’t defend the rights of the individual against the state in this case.
    I think the reason that the religious conservatives failed to rally the nation around the Terry Shiavo case is simple. Many of us cannot see ourselves ever wanting to have an abortion, but any one of us could have an accident or illness that renders us unable to refuse medical treatment.
    Being kept alive indefinately while courts and politicians fight it out is a terrifying prospect.

  3. Nancy-You make an excellent point-this is why everyone should designate a medical care surrogate.I had to make that decision for my father .He had made his mind up about what he wanted long before he died,so there was no problem when the time came,aside from what anyone would normally experience making that decision,albeit carrying out that person’s wishes.

  4. My sympathies for you and your family. It’s never easy. It was good of your father to let his wishes be known so the family didn’t have to agonize over it, and good of you to respect his wishes. Most of the elderly and chronically ill people i work with have clear ideas of what they want done. it’s a very personal choice.

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