Not to disparage the martial arts, and potentially offend some black belts, but this innovative approach to rape prevention offers ten simple behavior changes that can completely eliminate the risk of rape. Most people are already following this program, which seems completely natural once you get used to it. What to do about the others is the problem…
Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work!
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
The other ten tips are here, courtesy of Salon’s Broadsheet.
Interestingly, the comments section on Broadsheet is flaming with angry men who mistake this satire for actual prevention tips or else feel it puts too much responsibility on men. The list isn’t gendered, which makes sense because women can be predators too.
When I first started studying self-defense, there were countless books that told you to ‘never do this’ and ‘always do that’. This was very blaming, and if I’d followed all the advice I would have become a recluse. There was also a lot of ‘should have done, shouldn’t have done’ even from victims themselves. One of my fellow karate students, a man, was beaten up by a gang in an act of random violence. ‘I shouldn’t have walked by them.’ he said.
If we were omniscient we would certainly avoid all dangers, but we are only human and have to live in this imperfect world. As the self-defense movement matured, and more books by women became available, there was recognition that every day we have to choose what risks to take.
I would no more say that it’s fine to live as if there was no such thing as sexual assault than I would say that you should leave your laptop on the table at Starbucks while you go out for a smoke. On the other hand, it’s the thief’s fault if they steal it.
It doesn’t make sense to talk about crime prevention if you take the criminal out of the equation. This reversal of the advice women have been hearing for years is a mind opener, and puts the responsibility where it belongs.