Testimony at the State House

We waited in room 313 for about seven hours to testify, but we were grateful to have chairs. I give credit for everyone who stuck it out, regardless of their point of view. Even Chris Young waited until after he had testified to start with the cops and get thrown out.

This is my written testimony– by the time we were called we had decided to shorten our remarks as it was after 11:00 and people were wilting. Wild night, but now I have to get to work.

Marriage is not just a privilege, but a responsibility. I’ve had patients whose spouses were introduced as ‘friend’ or ‘room mate’. They were afraid of how the staff might treat them, but love is hard to conceal. We knew when we were dealing with a couple.

There’s a saying in nursing, ‘discharge planning begins on the day of admission’. You look for a responsible party, usually family. If it were not for the support of family and friends, the state would be impossibly burdened and still fail to meet the needs of citizens suffering illness, accident or misfortune.

Married people care for one another in sickness and in health, for better or for worse.

John Green and I were married 22 years when we got a phone call that his mother had died, suddenly and unexpectedly. As we faced this loss together, I knew that I would someday need to lean on him. Marriage sustains us when we must say goodbye to our parents and elders.

There is great benefit to society when committed couples marry. They publicly and legally take responsibility for each other.

What benefit to the rest of us justifies denying homosexual couples the right to legal marriage? Who are these people who claim to be protecting my marriage? I’ve been married 28 years and they don’t speak for me. They slander my friends and acquaintances who happen to be gay. They act like my church, which has blessed same-sex unions since the 1970’s does not exist. They say gay couples are a threat to marriage, but Massachusetts is doing just fine.

Rhode Island is facing challenges to do right by our families and children. Education, employment, safe streets and affordable housing need our urgent attention. This is what will really protect our families. Encouraging couples to take on the responsibility of marriage will lift a burden from the state, and bring justice to our citizens.

7 thoughts on “Testimony at the State House

  1. I watched most of it.I did catch you and your husband at the end,or close to it.
    Chris Young blew up again?I didn’t notice-it must’ve been off camera.
    I knew there’d be a Chris and Kara Show.
    Now this is a subject I care very little about,but i don’t like the way the GA has run away from it for years now.
    It seems cruel to have people slog up there year after year to offer emotional testimony on either side and then have to see the cowardly slugs in the GA avoid making a decision,i.e. voting it up or down.
    Now they have two opposite(more or less)bills to consider.
    I don’t think the referendum is a good idea for this reason:it would allow the GA to avoid yet again doing its job they are sent to Smith Hill for,which is to make legislative decisions.The rubber has to meet the road already.
    I think this testimony drains people-it seems the same faces are there every year.
    Referenda on such things as casino gambling;state name change;bond issues;etc are very appropriate,but this gets into peoples’ personal lives and we should hold the legislators to their responsibilities.
    How they vote really doesn’t affect me one way or the other.
    I’d also like to see some backbone on immigration bills and allow them to the floor for votes,although that is a much less emotional issue-more a matter of whether RI will support Federal law or become a law breaking sanctuary state.

  2. I think we are on the same page here, which is unusual, but cool.
    Kara got thrown out too. They had already testified and read many pages of the Bible. Edith Ajello had asked that people leave the room after testifying so that some of the crowd waiting in the hall could take a seat. By then, it was kind of a moot point, it was about 11:00 and most people had gone home.
    There was a panel of ministers, one who identified as ‘Old Catholic. I’m an ex, so I know there are some small denominations of Catholic, and I wasn’t surprised when the minister said he supported gay marriage, but Chris and Kara, who had already been warned and given some dirty looks from the cop, erupted and were thrown out with their signs and Bibles and papers.
    I think getting thrown out is an essential part of the experience for them.

    1. That man from the Old Catholic Church has some “history”with Kara and Chris-he was the gguy who kept poking her(it was on camera)last year after Chris was ejected(what else is new?) and they were really angry with him.

      1. Their testimony was nasty. Chris claimed (as I understood him to the best of my recollection)that hordes of HIV positive gays were massing on the border waiting to move into Rhode Island, get married and crash our health care system [just as they did in Massachusetts before it fell into the Atlantic under the weight of sin]
        Kara talked about the Bible and sodomy.
        Most interesting was Chris’ offhand remark, ‘if me and Kara get married’. Or maybe it was ‘when’.
        I totally do not understand this long engagement thing. When you are past your first youth, what’s the point in waiting?

  3. This is a civil rights issue, pure and simple. The state has no more right to discriminate against LGBT than it does to discriminate against blacks or women. It wasn’t that long ago that interracial marriages were illegal, was that change put to a popular vote? It’s up to the legislative branch to show some cojones on this one and do what’s right.

  4. I agree that the rights of a minority should not be put up to a majority vote. I think the out of state players from NOM who were flown in to testify and Rep. Jon D.Brien were pushing for a referendum because they expect the vote would go their way.
    I truly believe that if interracial marriage were debated state by state with the popular vote we would still be having divisive and expensive battles over it.

  5. I did see their testimony-you have accurately described it.
    Yeah,I don’t know about that long engagement thing,but don’t ask me-I was 24 and my wife 23 when we got married-hotter’n pepper sprouts you might say.
    Now the high point of the day is when our grandaughter visits.

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