Today’s Providence Journal has a story of guilt and the grace of not seeking revenge…

PROVIDENCE — In a heart-wrenching address to the magistrate who would sentence the man who killed his son, rabbi and lawyer Arthur Schaefer said it mattered more to him what the defendant did after he got out of jail than how much time he spent in it.

In a steady and almost gentle tone, Schaefer said he didn’t come to court seeking revenge, but rather some way to make the death of his promising son Avi have some kind of meaning, a way to make the world a better place.

A story like this makes it clear what the world lost when Avi Schaefer was taken away by careless disregard.

Read the rest here.


3 thoughts on “Grace

  1. It took a lot of strength for the man to say what he did.
    I couldn’t have.
    True,the defendant had no intent to hurt,let alone kill his son,but he did through criminal negligence.
    I don’t much like any clergymen,but this Rabbi walked the walk on forgiveness.

  2. This is an amazing testament to a father who is able to see past his own pain and look at what needs to happen in the situation. I agree, with Obs, I do not think I could have that kind of strength.

    The whole thing is also just so scary from the viewpoint of how fragile our lives are, and how danger can be anywhere. I’ve always felt that way about walking on those thin streets with the big vehicles passing so close by. I guess this danger has always been there, but I feel more aware of it now.

    1. Good points-having been in a lot of hazardous siituations in the military and law enforcement and having been circling the bowl medically numerous times,I’ve gotten over worrying much about muyself.I’ve heard “your cancer is back”so many times,I don’t even skip a beat over it any more.The first time I heard I had cancer i was pretty messed up for about a week.Then I decided it was like “whatever”-there’s nothing I can do about it,so why make myself sicker?
      One can never do anything “dangerous”and still die in their living room watching tv.
      I don’t much have any idea why “thrill seekers”go out and do what they do.
      They should just go to war or take a job repairing the third rail in the subway.
      If you survive a situation by a hair’s breadth it doesn’t lessen your chances of surviving the next situation.This “luck”thing isn’t cumulative.
      I was in a plane crash in Vietnam in 1969 and was flying in another plane about two hours later.I really wasn’t sweating two plane crashes in one day,but still it coulda happened.You can go crazy thinking too much about such things.
      I do,however,worry about my son and daughter and grandkids and others I feel close to.I guess if you don’t you aren’t normal.
      I guess you wouldn’t have liked being in the Border Patrol at El Centro,CA,my first duty station.On Hwy 111 at night we were standing out there in the middle of a two lane highway for about 10 hours at a time with nothing between 18 wheeler cattle haulers,sleepy drivers,and nitwits,except a verical box where we kept the shotgun and rifle.Oh,yeah,we hd a stop sign and floodlights(at night)-the best thing to do was try not to think about getting run over.I concentrated on who or what was in the vehicles.I worked with one guy who liked to shoot at bats all night with the 12 gauge.I always thought he’d wind up shooting me by mistake,but he didn’t.Whew!!:))

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